So, let’s say that you want improve the quality of your Family Life. That’s an admirable goal, but you have to be more specific. You know that there are lots of things you can work on when it comes to the family, so you have to get specific. You will need to think about what part of the family relationship that you need to work on and what it will take for you to bring the family closer to your own ideal.

The second part of the law of attraction is to learn how to let go of the negative energy and replace it with positive energy. Get everyone on board with the idea. Describe the vision as you see it.  In GREAT detail. Know what it will look like when you have accomplished it.  Get your family members to see it, too. A group change is easier if everyone in the group can see where this is going.

If you would really like to use the law of attraction in your family, then you will have to get everyone to give it a chance. Have every member of your family use the law of attraction in a way to achieve the family’s collective goal. You will want to make sure that no one’s goal conflicts with another because it will end up in conflict with the overall goal. You will want to make sure that you consider the way the family reacts to the law of attraction theory.

Moving on to the third step of the law of attraction, you all need to take action on the goal.  That is, act like a family. This means that you will need to schedule your family nights and learn how to share time with each other. You will need to accept the fact that the family needs to start acting like a family. For example, you need to all sit down and eat dinner together. Talk at breakfast, work together, spend time together, and have some fun together. This is the step where you will need to act like you are family.

You will want to consider that there is a lot to do when it comes to working as a family and it is a long way down the road before your family is “perfect”.  Achieving family togetherness and happiness is not (usually) a one-step process.

Be patient and remind each other of the vision with each other often.  Keep the vision alive.  It’ll work.  You’ll see.

If stress is a particular problem in your family, have a look here.

So, exactly what is this “Law of Attraction”? The law of attraction is an ancient idea based on something that Buddha said. In a nutshell it is that you create your own reality through the energy (intention) you emanate.   Another way to say it is that you get in life what you’re looking for.

Some say that the idea that we create our reality is “preposterous”.  Others say that it cannot be proven.

I respectfully disagree.  The nature of my disagreement with such naysayers may split hairs, but they are important hairs to split.

We create our reality every moment of every day by the choices we make.  If I choose to act on one thing and not act on another, I’m taking steps that will have a direct (and potentially dramatic) impact on my life.  For example, if I choose to ignore a stop sign or red traffic light when I’m driving my car, I am creating a “high-probability” chance of a different reality from the alternate reality of coming to a full stop at the appropriate place.

Now, if I make an intention (an intention is nothing more than a pre-made set of choices), and if I take actions consistent with that intention I am creating a reality for myself.

At the level of the brain, we have what is called the reticular cortex.  The reticular cortex is our attention getter AND it is programmable.  For example, your reticular cortex is programmed to respond when it identifies that someone is calling you by name.  So, when you’re at a party and there’s lots of ambient noise.  You could be shouting through the din in an attempt to make conversation.  But if someone in the room whispers your name, your reticular cortex will have you up and looking around in an attempt to figure out who called you.  Your conscious mind may wonder, “Did I just hear something?” but you have already responded to it before that question was formed.

The cool thing about this is the programmable feature.  Have you ever noticed that when you decide that you want to buy a new car, say a SmartCar, you suddenly see them all over the place?  Or when you learn a new word, like “crepuscular”, suddenly you’ll hear it in two or three places.  That’s the newly programmed reticular cortex.  It’s not that the SmartCar or “crepuscular” weren’t there before, it’s that you hadn’t programmed yourself to respond to them.

SO… this means that once you’ve added a new pattern to your programmable reticular cortex, it’s going to be looking for things that match the pattern. Thus, if you want to improve your spiritual growth, or your relationships, or your money situation, or your family life, you drop it into your reticular cortex, and you’ll be seeing things that might have been there all along, but that you weren’t attuned to.

In the New Testament, in the 11th Chapter of Luke, Jesus says, “ask and you will receive; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”  Sure sounds like programming the reticular cortex to me.