So, exactly what is this “Law of Attraction”? The law of attraction is an ancient idea based on something that Buddha said. In a nutshell it is that you create your own reality through the energy (intention) you emanate.   Another way to say it is that you get in life what you’re looking for.

Some say that the idea that we create our reality is “preposterous”.  Others say that it cannot be proven.

I respectfully disagree.  The nature of my disagreement with such naysayers may split hairs, but they are important hairs to split.

We create our reality every moment of every day by the choices we make.  If I choose to act on one thing and not act on another, I’m taking steps that will have a direct (and potentially dramatic) impact on my life.  For example, if I choose to ignore a stop sign or red traffic light when I’m driving my car, I am creating a “high-probability” chance of a different reality from the alternate reality of coming to a full stop at the appropriate place.

Now, if I make an intention (an intention is nothing more than a pre-made set of choices), and if I take actions consistent with that intention I am creating a reality for myself.

At the level of the brain, we have what is called the reticular cortex.  The reticular cortex is our attention getter AND it is programmable.  For example, your reticular cortex is programmed to respond when it identifies that someone is calling you by name.  So, when you’re at a party and there’s lots of ambient noise.  You could be shouting through the din in an attempt to make conversation.  But if someone in the room whispers your name, your reticular cortex will have you up and looking around in an attempt to figure out who called you.  Your conscious mind may wonder, “Did I just hear something?” but you have already responded to it before that question was formed.

The cool thing about this is the programmable feature.  Have you ever noticed that when you decide that you want to buy a new car, say a SmartCar, you suddenly see them all over the place?  Or when you learn a new word, like “crepuscular”, suddenly you’ll hear it in two or three places.  That’s the newly programmed reticular cortex.  It’s not that the SmartCar or “crepuscular” weren’t there before, it’s that you hadn’t programmed yourself to respond to them.

SO… this means that once you’ve added a new pattern to your programmable reticular cortex, it’s going to be looking for things that match the pattern. Thus, if you want to improve your spiritual growth, or your relationships, or your money situation, or your family life, you drop it into your reticular cortex, and you’ll be seeing things that might have been there all along, but that you weren’t attuned to.

In the New Testament, in the 11th Chapter of Luke, Jesus says, “ask and you will receive; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”  Sure sounds like programming the reticular cortex to me.

Honestly, do you really want a gaggle of Cosmo-swilling malcontent Manhattanites implicitly casting aspersions on your relationship?

You can “what if…” yourself to death.  Sometimes all that over-thinking can get in the way of just being with the person you love.  Every couple has “issues” from time to time, and most of the time you just work through them.  If you’re in a rut and you don’t like it, don’t complain to your girlfriends.  Don’t complain to the guys in the bar or on the golf course.  Tell it to the only person in the universe who can actually do something about it: YOUR PARTNER.

Set up a special time.  Book an appointment with each other if you have to.  Make sure the kids won’t disturb you.  Then begin at the beginning.  Say what’s on your mind.  Be honest.  And be fair.  Do NOT threaten.  Yes, it may feel uncomfortable.  Give your partner the opportunity to respond.  Yes, it may feel uncomfortable.  It’s okay if you cry.  That goes for the men, too.  If a relationship is good enough to fight over, it’s good enough to cry over.  Yes, it may feel uncomfortable.  Do it anyway.

When you’ve achieved the breakthrough that inevitably happens through healthy encounters, then get ready for some good “make up” sex.

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