Relationship As You Want It
Posted Under: Relationships
Given the media frenzy over less-than-wholesome celebrity relationships in recent years, you might feel inclined to measure your own relationship against an arbitrary media-imposed standard. This can lead to a tendency to over-analyze our personal (i.e. intimate) relationships. “Is he/she really the one?” “What if I meet someone else?” or the more threatening “What happens to me if he/she meets someone else?” Whether you’re watching Sex In The City, or Oprah, or even Rachel Ray, you’re going to be challenged about the perceived quality of your relationship.
Honestly, do you really want a gaggle of Cosmo-swilling malcontent Manhattanites implicitly casting aspersions on your relationship?
You can “what if…” yourself to death. Sometimes all that over-thinking can get in the way of just being with the person you love. Every couple has “issues” from time to time, and most of the time you just work through them. If you’re in a rut and you don’t like it, don’t complain to your girlfriends. Don’t complain to the guys in the bar or on the golf course. Tell it to the only person in the universe who can actually do something about it: YOUR PARTNER.
Set up a special time. Book an appointment with each other if you have to. Make sure the kids won’t disturb you. Then begin at the beginning. Say what’s on your mind. Be honest. And be fair. Do NOT threaten. Yes, it may feel uncomfortable. Give your partner the opportunity to respond. Yes, it may feel uncomfortable. It’s okay if you cry. That goes for the men, too. If a relationship is good enough to fight over, it’s good enough to cry over. Yes, it may feel uncomfortable. Do it anyway.
When you’ve achieved the breakthrough that inevitably happens through healthy encounters, then get ready for some good “make up” sex.
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