Start at the Beginning

When you begin to explore consciously the alternatives that will let you live your life as you want it, you are at a point of new beginnings.  So where do you start? Most people haven’t got a clue.

In my humble opinion, you lead with your strengths.  You go with your gut, your instincts, your PASSION.  The trouble is, many people are content to “settle” for things in their lives.  They “settle” for a ho-hum relationship; they settle for a ho-hum, soul-crushing job; they “settle” for a couch potato life.  They think that passion is something that “everyone else” has.

What are the things you care about enough to change for?  How do you know?  How can you find out?

First of all, give yourself some space and some private time.  Start with 5 minutes. Anybody can find 5 minutes.  You can even start in the bathroom (if you catch my drift).  Take 5 minutes of uninterrupted time, and let yourself feel your way into an ideal future.  I’m not talking about fantasy.  You’re not Superman with x-ray vision and the ability to fly.  You’re not Ironman.  You’re not Wonder Woman.  You are a real person with aspirations.

In your mind, go out into that ideal future – as if there were NO obstacles; as if money were not an issue, as if geography weren’t an issue.  Where would you be (physically) in that ideal future? What surrounds you?  What to you see?  What do you hear? What do you feel?  Who are you with?  What do you do in that future ideal life?

Remember this is your ideal life.  There is no room here for “I can’t” or “I couldn’t possibly”.  This is your ideal life.  Not your husband’s.  Not your wife’s.  Not your parents’.  There is no one else here who can put limits on this picture of yours but YOU!  So GO FOR IT.  What does it look like?  What does it sound like? What does it feel like?

Have you let yourself really let go?  Do it.  Do it often.  Do it so often that it feels real.

The next step is to be in that ideal life and turn around and look at all the events between now and your future ideal life and see what must have happened in order for you to get from here to there.

Remember that it’s not going to happen all at once.  It’s going to happen in a series of steps — just like learning to walk or learning to talk or learning to spell.

In a future post, I’ll discuss making the steps real.

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